Alice Walker, author of The Color Purple, is quoted as saying:
No person is your friend (or kin) who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow and be perceived as fully blossomed as you were intended.”
Emotional abusers silence their victims with threats, promises, and sometimes even affection and gifts.
Sometimes they declare that family members do not care. There might be just the teensiest bit of truth to the claim, but this may also be an attempt to silence those who could help.
Know who your true friends are in your life. Family members who refuse to listen to you when you try to speak up about abuse are not true kin. Real family cares about and for one another.
Here is another question to ask yourself:
Who controls the dialog in your life?
Who writes the narrative?
Who speaks the loudest?
Finding one’s voice can be likened to taking a journey on a long and winding road. Envision the mountains of Italy and the roads filled with switchbacks.
The feeling of getting nowhere can be overwhelming at times. The view doesn’t seem to change as you progress. You are making progress.
Keep using that voice.